Monthly Archives: September 2013

Sep27

It’s ok to move on

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Recently I made contact with an ex-boyfriend. I’m not sure what I was expecting or why I made the contact. Perhaps it was about knowing he was still out there, knowing he would acknowledge me or perhaps testing out my own current thoughts on the relationship.

This is a guy who completely broke my heart. For the first time in my life, I was understanding what a ‘broken heart’ actually meant. The physical pain that is felt, the emotional struggle that needs to be dealt with and the mental anguish that a broken heart puts you through. Oh! the thoughts, the feelings, the senses. I can truly understand how a broken heart can cripple you, have you withdraw and send your life into chaos.

I struggled, and I struggled hard. As a deep thinker, I would recall every event, every conversation, every action and try to determine what the hell happened. Every waking hour is about the relationship, sifting through the history and dealing with the loss of any future plans/goals etc. You spend so much time pulling the relationship apart whilst also trying to put together the pieces, trying to understand what happened (or what didn’t happen) and then struggling with your own self thoughts. You need to readjust plans/goals and how you imagine life was going to be. Your thoughts sporadically bounce between the good, the bad and the ugly of the relationship. One minute you have convinced yourself that it was the best relationship of your life and you can not live without it, the next, you see the parts of the relationship that weren’t happy and are then convinced that you are better without the relationship. This constant too and fro does your head in, and you constantly pray that you wake up and will have no thoughts again of the relationship and that from here your life will just continue. But you can’t ‘just continue’ until you have dealt with it all. At some point in time you have to deal with it. Sure, you could dust it under the rug, hide it in the cupboard, but eventually down the track it’ll come back and need to be dealt with.

What you don’t realise at the time, is that you need to experience all this in order to grow and develop within yourself. The freedom of getting to the other side and watching/feeling yourself move forward and reestablish yourself is just so rewarding.

I now know that I made contact as part of my ‘moving on phase’. To me it felt like a final goodbye, even if the words didn’t say that. I’ve done the tears, I’ve done the physical hurt and the mental anguish and my emotional struggle is now to the point of allowing me to move on. I can move on, feeling no regret, at peace with forgiving what has happened and with plenty of love in my heart to continue with lifes journey.

I am thankful for the opportunity to personally grow and to have the time to understand, not only myself better, but the life I want to live and how I want to live it.

Just because it didn’t last forever, doesn’t mean it wasn’t worth your while – unknonwn

Kx

Sep19

A Journey of Visions

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Imagination gives you the picture. Vision gives you the impulse to make the picture your own – Robert Collier

Where do you start with determining your visions in life? Is it a matter of listing them all out or simply allowing it to naturally  form in your dreams and thoughts?

When I think about it, there are many things I would like to do in life. Are these things visions or goals?

Recently, whilst on my own little journey at a retreat last week, I learnt that there is a difference between a ‘vision’ and a ‘goal’. To be clear I researched the true definitions:

Vision: An aspirational description of what one would like to achieve or accomplish in the mid-term or long-term future.

Goal: An observable and measurable end result having one or more objectives to be achieved within a more or less fixed timeframe.

A vision helps you to pursue dreams and achieve goals. When well defined, a vision will open your mind to endless possibilities and is a way to help you stay focused when times are tough. When you do not have a vision of who you want to be or what you want out of life, then you start to lack drive and your life plays out as an order of events. Visions will help you to be successful in life and will provide you with the drive and motivation to live the life you want to live.

Previously, every year, come new years, I would write out my goals for that year. It could be anything from doing a renovation job around the house to planning a holiday, paying off a debt to how I want to feel throughout the year etc.. Very much varied! I always make sure I mix it up a bit and add something that MUST be done with things that are fun and that I want to do. I feel that doing it this way means that I’m not ignoring those pesky important things that need my attention.

Having been through the vision journey and becoming clear in regards to a vision and a goal. I can now concentrate on exactly what my visions are. For example: I may have a vision to travel the world, experience difference places, people, food, cultures and to dip my toes into as many calming and tranquil waters as possible. My vision may even focus on certain continents, countries or experiences I want to have. From the overall vision I can then set goals to assist with the vision coming to life. My goals could be based on the timeframe, activities and exactly where I want to go.

Understanding what a vision is and how important in life these are, asssits with knowing who you want to be and what life you want to lead.

So, from here, my journey of visions begin.

*Do not put limits on your dreams*

I thank spiritual teacher, Les Dyer, for teaching me the true meaning of a vision.

Kx

Sep18

Beginning of Time

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A world of complete wonder, constant change and awe inspiring personal growth.

All my life I had a feeling that 2013 was a special year. Having been born on the 13th, I also felt 2013 was my year for fun, excitement and adventures. What I didn’t realise, was that this was going to be the most important year for ME ever!

9 months into the year and I now realise the personal growth journey I have been on. A journey of learning who I am, where I come from, how I contribute and what I am capable of. And so begins the ‘Journey with me, myself and I’.

I intend to make the most of this ‘year of journeys’ and ensure that I carefully listen and keep in tune with my truth. Understand what I believe in, the life that I chose to live and what motivates and drives me to be the best person that I want to be.

I want my life purpose to be about what matters the most: To be a great mum, a loyal friend, valued family member and a loving contributor to all those around us.

I thank this journey for the path I am meant to be on and open my arms and my heart to whatever comes my way.

My motto ‘Live, Laugh Love’.

Life is fantastic

Kx